Monday, May 10, 2010
What Do You Want to Hear?
When I started there was no info or easily accessed sources of material. I learned from my submissives’ desires as well as how to let go of natural inhibitions and say what I wanted to say. Slave Kayla loves verbal abuse. She is a dirty bitch whore who should be tied down and forced to lick every asshole and dripping pussy her master can find for her, or at least, that is what she wants to hear. Slave M doesn’t really like verbal abuse and is much more comfortable being called a slave, than a bitch and is not really happy with being called a whore at all. Slave S likes to be spoken to just as Kayla does, but doesn’t really feel the same. She enjoys the role-play but getting spoken down to really turns Kayla on. Slave K never voiced or showed a preference. I try to give a slave what they need as best I can, but I know M gets called a bitch and a whore more than she cares for, and Kayla never gets enough verbal abuse because after a while I get lost in the action and can’t keep up as steady a stream of verbal abuse. Whereas Kayla likes to think of herself as a dirty whore that would do anything and should be punished for it, M thinks of herself as a good girl that wants to please her master and just happens to enjoy pain and submission as much as other forms of stimulation. Slave S gets off on where her head is at, sometimes the obedient slave and sometimes the disobedient whore. Slave K wants to be hurt and used hard and you can say whatever you want as long as you give her what she needs. I believe this group is representative of all the types of submissives I have known or heard about.
So, there is what subs want to hear, but what about what dominants like to hear? I only know what I like, and how I train my slaves to speak. For one thing, I don’t like short answers. A yes master or yes sir is good (better than a no sir, certainly, but often won’t satisfy me. If I ask a slave, “would you like me to fuck your ass now slave?” I don’t just want to hear “Yes, sir.” I want to hear “Yes, sir, please fuck my ass now.” If I ask “Do you think I should cane your ass now slave?” I expect to hear, “Whatever you think sir.” “I think I should slave.” “Yes, sir, please cane my ass.” “How hard should I cane it slave?” I will ask. At the very least I expect to hear:“Please sir, cane my ass very hard. “ Most of te subs I know would add something like “Make me scream, sir, make me beg for mercy.” Sometimes, I will be more general, I can ask any of the subs I have been with; “What do you think I should do to your nipples slave?” And I will always get “You should hurt my nipples sir.” “How much slave?” I might ask. “Please master, hurt my nipples terribly (Or things like this, the words do not have to be exact--- just along those lines.) I have to admit; only one slave I have known could answer “What should I do to your asshole slave?” like this “Please sir, hurt my asshole.” M would answer with such fear and sincerity and anticipation that it was very exciting. None of the others I have been involved with really enjoyed more than a minimal amount of pain there and could not even fake such an verbal exchange. “How should I hurt your asshole slave?” I could ask, and she had many suggestions, always starting with me fucking it, because that is what she enjoyed the most. She did not get nearly as excited when something artificial was shoved inside of her, though once she saw how excited it made me she began to respond. I think when a sub has to answer in complete sentences or repeat all the words of what she is asked, it is very humiliating and exciting, at least I certainly find it is. Having to ask, request and beg for use and punishment is an important part of being submissive.